Your cct diag is straight forward.
The relay consists of a "NO" (normally open) contactor (A~D) and a Coil (B~C) with a diode connected internally (in parallel) across the coil.
Diodes are always one directional, in basic terms they are rectifiers, they allow the flow of power in one direction, blocking the opposite direction. In DC cct's, like in cars they can be used to absorb back EMF's or voltage spikes generated by the coils when power is turned on or more importantly off. The coil is energised whilst the Stereo is on, upon switching off the collapsing flux generates a massise voltage spike, which can be fed or induced into cars wiring. Not good for electronics.
As Sirfixalot says, a std Bosch auto relay will do the job, watching the wiring, and either internally or externall connecting a diode across the coil wiring - a run of the mill diode like a 1N4004 should do the job. The diode symbol has an arrow feeding into a flat line - this line equates to the white line drawn around the body of the diode.
The Series 2 C4's (90 onwards) use std Bosch style relays and bases in most applications, I suppose GM Engineers had to wake up at some stage and stop trying to re-invent the wheel, to make life hard for its customers.